I am spreading awareness on an invisible form of abuse that is extremely prevalent in the art scene, in both collaborative and interpersonal relationships - it is important to understand that abusers are far more common than you might think because most abuse, especially the covert kinds that cause emotional and prolonged psychological trauma, go unnoticed. When I use the word 'abuser' I am talking specifically about covert sociopaths, psychopaths, malignant narcissists, manipulators, pathological users and most generally, spiritless and empty humans. I am talking about psychosocial parasites and energetic vampirism. These people are serial predators who know exactly what they're doing - they will manipulate you into a relationship under false pretenses, intending to exploit you and feed off of your loosh which is akin to your spiritual and emotional energy.
Many survivors of this form of covert abuse experience something called delayed realization, only after leaving the relationship and cutting ties - it takes time away from these predatory relationships to realize just how poorly you were treated, in retrospect. The trauma bond that victims were manipulated into forming with the abuser makes it difficult to see through and identify the abuse while it's happening. Trauma bonding is similar to Stockholm Syndrome, in which people held captive come to have feelings of trust or even affection for the very people who captured and held them against their will. This is caused by a manipulative and psychologically violent tactic called intermittent reinforcement, something that is always at work in a relationship with a covert psychopath – abuse and neglect is mixed in with periodic displays of affection at unpredictable moments. This works precisely because our “rewards” (which could be anything from fleeting affection to a display of the abuser’s remorse) are given to us inconsistently throughout the abuse cycle, causing us to work harder to sustain the toxic relationship because we wish to return to the “honeymoon phase” of the cycle. The compounded effects of this cause victims to become physiologically "addicted" to the abuser and to the hope of reaping our “reward” despite evidence that we’re risking our own safety. Often times, this is why many people who struggle with codependency remain in abusive relationships despite the numerous red flags.